Four Reasons People Might Feel Okay Criticizing Your Caregiving Skills
When you’re working as hard as you can every day to take the best care possible of your aging adult, criticism from other family members can hurt a lot. Whether they’re critiquing decisions you’re making or they’re telling you that they’d do a better job, you might want to dig deeper to figure out why they’re being this way.
Elder Care Media PA – Four Reasons People Might Feel Okay Criticizing Your Caregiving Skills
They Don’t Understand What’s Going On
When your other family members aren’t as immersed in your elder’s care as you are, they may not have a full understanding about what is going on every day. Even if you’re sharing information with them, it can be tough to really get the full picture. For instance, hiring elder care providers might seem odd to them, whereas you realize just how much they can help both you and your aging adult with household tasks that are piling up.
They Really Think They’re Helping
Sometimes people criticize other people as a way of helping. It doesn’t feel that way on your end, of course, but they honestly believe that they’re offering you constructive criticism. Poor communication choices aside, you may want to nod and smile if you feel this is the reason you’re getting criticism from someone. Otherwise, you may find that the situation escalates easily.
They’ve Got Problems of Their Own
Quite often how someone talks to you and treats you doesn’t have as much to do with you as you think that it does. They might feel guilty for not helping you and your senior more often, for instance, or they may feel as if they’re left out in other ways. Because this doesn’t have much to do with you or anything that you’ve done, you’re also not responsible for correcting it.
They’re Terrified of What’s Happening
For some family members, changes in your elder’s health are terrifying. Chances are that your elderly family member has been a solid part of their entire lives. The thought that something could happen to your aging adult can be terrifying and cause them to react to anything that you do with criticism. Fear and denial are powerful emotions and they can cause people to say terrible things to you.
Getting to the bottom of all of the extra criticism you’re getting may not be necessary at all. Sure, it helps to understand what’s going on, but the bottom line is that you’re the one in the trenches. Do what you need to do for your elder family member and educate family members along the way.
If you or an aging loved one are considering Elder Care Services in Media PA, please contact the caring staff at True Direct Home Health Care today.
Doc, as he is called by everyone - staff, patients and clients - first experienced home health care and hospice care while as a colleg student at King's College as he cared for his mother every day while she first battled COPD and then lung cancer. It was during this time that he came to understand that caring for a patient was more than just clinical expertise.
"Admittedly, my strongest attribute is my communication skills and the simple fact that I love to help people. Even the smallest thing you can do for someone really can mean so much to them long term. In fact, it could change them forever. That's what providing quality personal home health care should be all about."
In his spare time, he cooks for homeless shelters and children's music and arts events. He also is highly involved in his local youth sports soccer academy as a coach and Board member.
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